From a woman's mouth to a man's ear

Yesterday evening Nic played softball, I caught one and a half games after I got off work and let me say that Nic did an awesome job hitting yesterday. He batted 1,000 in the first game (I know there is some decimal way to put it but give me a break, I don't pay attention to baseball) and almost as good the second game. Everyone commented on how he was having such a good hitting game.

Something that bothers me a lot are abusive relationships. When a man physically hurts a woman in someway it bothers me even more and I do not think in any way, shape or form should the woman stay in that relationship. I have never heard someone say "well, my husband hit me one time but he never has again.", once a hitter always a hitter. I don't care if you don't believe in divorce, or you love him or whatever it is unhealthy for you to be in that situation. The truth is; abusive relationships rarely change. Having said that I realize that the majority of women stay in those relationships for a lot of reasons I won't get into.

So how do those two things tie together?

This morning when Nic was getting ready for work he came over to the dining room table where I was feeding Remy his oatmeal, as he leaned in for a kiss I wrapped my arms around him and said "I'm so glad you are not a hitter". Meaning I'm glad he doesn't abuse me. He just kind of stood there and looked confused and said "what?". So I explained I was happy he didn't beat me and he looked relieved saying, as he walked away, "Not a good thing to say the morning after I play softball!".

I always know the right thing to say